Despite what popular convention may dictate, turning 30 doesn’t mean that you have to hang up any semblance of having fun. Raving doesn’t have to stop after age 30.
I have friends and family members who have settled into a house and kids and they love that life and I couldn’t possibly be more proud of and happy for them, but it doesn’t mean that my version of the third decade of life has to play out the same way.
I love to dance and I love going to raves, clubs, and parties. That isn’t going to change anytime soon.
Here are some reasons why mainstream wisdom can go fuck itself:
Age is Arbitrary
“Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.” – Mark Twain
Charles Darwin was 29 when he came up with his theory of natural selection. J.K. Rowling didn’t publish the first Harry Potter book until she was 32. Bryan Cranston was 44 when he landed the part of Hal on Malcolm in the Middle and even older when he transformed into Heisenberg for Breaking Bad.
Your life doesn’t end once you turn 30 years old. You’re still a human being with potential. You cannot let something you can’t control like the year in which you were born affect how much you can enjoy living your life.
You’re in Good Company
If you’ve been in the scene for any length of time, you’ll know that seeing older people at festivals, raves and parties is not a rarity at all.
I’ve met people from all ages at shows. From 18 year olds fresh out of high school to older people well into their 60s and 70s, party people come in all different shapes, sizes, and age ranges.
Trust me, you won’t be the lone geezer standing in the corner looking awkward. Push your way to the middle of the crowd and go nuts.
You Have the Means to Travel to More Raves than the Younger People
I’m willing to bet most ravers don’t have 401ks, vested stock options, or bank accounts pushing 6 figures. Use this to your advantage.
If you see raves in Europe or other parts of the world that interest you, you have the means to get there.
There’s no reason to stop exploring once you hit a certain number of years on earth.
You’re Never Too Old to Dance
No matter how old you are, if you’re able to get around on two legs, then you can dance.
Don’t think of it as raving. Just call it “partying.” Think of it as going out to dance. If you want to dance, then by all means go dance.
If it doesn’t get in the way of other people dancing and you’re not being creepy or aggressive, then you’re not doing anything wrong.
Do people stop going out and dancing when they reach 30?
Everyone is too Distracted to Notice You’re Older Than Them
Whether it’s because of the drugs, the alcohol, or the beautiful men/women surrounding them, people are not at raves to attack others.
That’s one of the reasons I’ve always been drawn to house shows and warehouse clubs, as there is no air of judgement.
At almost every rave I’ve attended, everyone there is comfortable and fun and fancy free and it translates into an extremely satisfying dance experience.
There are 21+ Only Shows for a Reason
If you’re that concerned about being ostracized by the younger generations, then stick to 21+ only shows. This cuts out a huge negative element. The only people there are generally more mature and laid back and don’t any sort of drama to impede their good time.
If everyone’s drunk, there’s a certain aura of fellowship that pervades the entire scene. It’s more communal than cliquey.
Do What You Love and Stop Giving a Fuck
Be confident and do what you love in life. This doesn’t just apply to your party lifestyle, but to your entire existence.
If you’re not enjoying what you’re doing, then don’t do it. If you’re having fun and you’re not hurting anyone, then there’s no reason to stop.
Your attitude is what defines the experience. The happier, more approachable, and more fun that you appear and the confidence you exude will draw other people to you. It will improve your experience tenfold.
Stop caring so much about what other people think and start worrying about what you think. If it makes you happy, it’s worth any potential stigma.